Serving Crescent City and Del Norte County, California with Home Hospice Care.

There is a particular kind of loss that doesn't get talked about enough in hospice circles. Not the loss of a parent, which is painful and expected in the natural order of things, but the loss of the person you built your life with. The one whose side of the bed you have slept beside for decades. The one who knows the story of your life because they were in most of it.

You chose hospice because you wanted good care for someone you love. You trusted the team that walked through your door. And now something has shifted, a decision you don't agree with, a recommendation that doesn't feel right, a sense that your concerns are being heard but not really listened to, and you don't know what you're allowed to do about it.

You are allowed to do quite a lot. And speaking up is not a betrayal of the process.

Maybe you were the person who lived the closest, or you were the one that called your mom or dad most frequently. Maybe you were perceived as the “favorite child,” or maybe you were just the one who took action.

Somewhere out there, your brother is living his normal life, or your sister calls once a week to offer opinions about the care plan without offering to come and help with any of it. They haven’t stepped up to truly help, and there are no signs that anything is going to change.